Podcast: 'Running, Body Image and Growing a business from the inside out' Mini Episode Six |Nicky Raby

M I N I E P I S O D E S I X Is live. It is a bit of a personal one but I wanted to share. 
I talk about running #couchto5k and how it is a mental game not necessarily a leg game. Visibility and how I want to feel in my body after having a very complicated relationship with it in the past. Also how at almost 37 I want to feel the best version of myself and connected with my body... and I mention the 90s ladette word ‘Goer’

[VIDEO] How to get out of the 'Everyone in my industry does x,y and z' mindset

Today's video is live and it comes very much for a personal place. No matter what your industry, it can be easy to get caught up in the trap of 'this is what you should do to be successful in your industry'

As an actor, I have oodles of accents up my sleeve including the coveted RP but does that mean I want to be all gushy and 'ohhhh amaaaaazing daaaarling' when I don't really mean it - nope. That's not me.

As a coach, I don't talk about my bank balance. I don't take pictures of first class travel. I don't 'break you down to build you back up' that's just not my style. The thing is when I don't do things in a way that feels good, I always catch myself out. It always feels clunky and 'hard work' soooo even though I know many would suggest that have sales funnels that 'catch the sale at every step' , videos where I am stepping off a yacht and photographs where the whole family are branded and in white on a Christmas staircase... I would prefer to channel my inner 17 old who was curious, instinctive, fearless (often drunk!) and asked ALL the questions. I hung out with everyone and never stuck to just one tribe. This gave me insight, perspective, empathy and the glorious 'BIGGER PICTURE' and plenty of stories which make the 36 year old me need a sit down. 

Rewrite your own rulebook

If you ask someone else to write it, it will be probably be full of 'shoulds' which are not helpful to you. Nor what you want to be/do/have
Today marks the day that two years ago I officially started to rewrite my own rule book. 
I now work less but earn more. 
I am less stressed and more passionate. 
I have more family time and time at home. 
That's not to say I don't work odd hours sometimes. Or feel like my to do list is never ending. Or to feel like I have enough sleep or me time. 
Of course it is all a work in progress. 
But my question for you is what rules do you need to add or erase? 
I can help. Please don't think there isn't way for you... or that it only happens to other people. Not true. 

You may not have the traditional Friday feels...

Sometimes there can be pressure to feel amazing on a Friday...to get that sense of euphoria that the week is over and you should celebrate in style. 

But in reality you may want to stick your head under a duvet asap and write the week off. Maybe you've had disappointments, or things didn't go your way. Perhaps you didn't get the clients/customers you expected. Maybe the money didn't flow or everything just felt bloody hard. 
I've had all of those things in the past and I'm sure will experience many of them again. 

However I know I give myself permission now to do what I need to do. To rest, to regroup (with myself) and take it slowly. Most importantly gain perspective and be kind to myself. 

How do you get that Friday feeling?

The secret weapon shoes

I can't believe I have never talked about these numbers which have been in my wardrobe for maybe 10+ years.

They were purchased from Office in an impulsive moment at a reduced price but I knew they had to come home with me.

Despite being silver.

Despite being higher than the moon- I learnt the hard way; they are not for stomping around on a bar crawl (however much you drink to numb the pain). They are more suitable for laying down ! (Don't worry there isn't going to be a gross TMI here- MP isn't keen on them and 'doesn't get them') 😂

Despite being highly impractical, they remain in my wardrobe for me and for others mainly during photo shoots when we need to be FUCKING UNAPOLOGETIC. 

Sorry to get all sweary...it was the shoes talking. 

Theeeese shoes make you stand up and look sharp. 
They make you feel like you are coming up through the stage like you are a Smash Hits poll winners' nominee from 93'

They basically make you step into you...where you are shining the brightest when you are not worried about what others think, or you are stifled with fear or when you doubt yourself. 
The shoes have powers...available to borrow when needed. 
They are a size 5 but I have been known to help a size 7 lady tip toe in them whilst I crouched on the floor provided a support.

This is just one of my confidence tools when I know I need to 'own it'

More here: 

Interview with Laura Adeshiyan | Founder of Mama Rules

I was thrilled to interview Laura Adeshiyan, Founder of Mama Rules.

We have children who are of a similar age and in this interview we discuss business and motherhood. 

  • How you can use your maternity leave to get clear on the next steps of your career

  • How to combat the unpredictable sleeping patterns of a little one and run a business

  • How to make progress and take action

  • How to be productive, focused and efficient. 

Big thanks to Laura.