You work too hard to just make bills

I have a little story for you today. Last summer I was booked to host a talk at The Townhall Hotel in Shoreditch. It is a beautiful venue if you haven’t been. The room I was speaking in looks like a court room. I wanted to do my best Judge voice and say ‘ALLLL RISE’ or could have said it like the 2001 banger by Blue :) 

It was a hot, sweaty day. My tube got diverted. I had to get on a packed bus. My shoe broke in the middle of a packed, sweaty bus. I had a very un Carrie Bradshaw moment as I had to change my shoes in the street. Then I remembered what a bugger they were to walk in. I tried to channel Ms J. Alexander however... not sure I styled it out. 

I then to walk into a very fancy hotel and talk to a packed room. My intention was to inspire, motivate, educate and make people feel good. I did that but still my broken flip flop was bugging me. 

Making do and saying ‘I didn't mind’ used to be my norm. I would be the first there, the last to leave, I would do free work, I would over deliver and undercharge. I wasn't valued and didn't see my own worth (P.S I have figured out you have to see it in yourself before others do). I would say yes instead of no. I would scrimp on the basics and focus on the little details, instead of investing and growth. 

Now I don't just want to make the minimum. To always be just about making do.

The thing is I have invested thousands into my own training and expertise. However it always comes back to the way we value ourselves. I have had clients who have been internationally famous, who have three degrees, who are recognised as an expert in their field but still doubt whether they can charge for their services or whether they should just give them away or whether they have anything of value to share. 

In the taxi home, I reminded myself that the 'old me' would have got four buses, a walk, two trains and tube home... because I thought taxis were wasteful. Now I switched into growth, I understand the small details I need in order to do what I want to do. 

By getting a taxi I was home in 20 minutes...not an hour and ten, waiting at a cold bus stop. We are always awake early in our house and I need not to feel absolutely exhausted so I can do what I need to do the next day. I love TFL but also know when I need to get home speedily. 

Ultimately even though I thought the 'minimum' was enough and it was ok to make do, it wasn’t.

So I have a few questions for you to ponder: 

Where are you over delivering to everyone else but under delivering to yourself? 

What do you consistently give away when you know you should charge? 

What incremental changes would make all the difference and allow you to be the person you want to be in the world? 

Where do you say you are underserving or ‘it doesn’t matter’ or ‘it will do for now’ 

When I work with clients I cover three main pillars; vision, strategy and mindset. The three have to go hand in hand. Moving to the next level take courage, commitment, a plan, a purpose and big old of slice of trust. 

A little sign I needed a declutter and I was going to the next level...

So I think I am amongst friends and you won’t judge me too much…or will you? :)

This isn’t my desk on a day to day basis…I emptied all the drawers and had a good look at all the madness I was holding onto…

As I have spoken about before, I am really feeling a step up in my business at the moment. There is so much I want to do in business and in life and I can’t do all the things if everything isn’t aligned…

I know that sounds dippy hippy but bear with me.

I am a big believer in making space for the next chapter.

For example you can’t buy a whopping great sofa and shove it in a packed living room and expect it to thrive. You have to remove the old one…maybe move stuff around or mix it up.

Here are some of the things I found:

  • An old school report. It wasn’t bad at all but very dated (obviously). Plus Mr Bowen’s analysis of my netball technique doesn’t need to be in view when I am recording a podcast.

  • Two boxes of matches…I love lighting candles but definitely don’t need over a 100 to get the Monday party started.

  • Old technology…wires…devices…who knows what they are or how old they are. Time to move them on. I have great techonology that I have invested in so I need to enjoy that.

What’s on your declutter list? Where are you stepping things up?

PODCAST: 'An honest account of the last four years in life and business (the ugly cries, the surprises and work in progress)' | Mini Episode 22


Mini Episode 22 is live. I had to close my eyes slightly as I pressed publish on this one. 

Listen below:

Being vague delays progress

C L A R I T Y

Do you remember that moment when you finally saved up enough pocket money to buy that thing you’d had your eye on for yonks? The extra bouncy trainers? The strong selection of fluorescent scrunchies (perfect for stacking!) or the strong smelling bubble bath from the Body Shop that made everyone in your house smell of tangerines. 

I remember saving up for some crimpers. Yes it was the 80s. The brand was Babyliss. The girl with the crimped hair in the advert looks liked she was having so much fun as she met her pals down the street. I was sold. 

Crimpers

I clutched my money and headed to Boots in Meadowhall in Sheffield and made a beeline for them. I didn’t get distracted, I knew the exact ones. They were there waiting for me. I crimped/ singed my hair as soon as I got home. Before long, everyone I met was a guinea pig and they left my sights with slightly frazzled hair. The return customers (non paying) even got to borrow one of the aforementioned fluorescent stacking scrunchies. 




So often I hear a lack of clarity…’I don’t mind’ ‘You choose’ ‘We’ll just have to see what happens’ ‘I’ll just cross my fingers’. ‘Whatever you think” That sense of limbo of waiting on someone’s decision can take up a lot of energy. 




What would it feel like to put all that energy into clarity, direction and focus. 




I would love what is important to you right now. If you could state your preferred outcome now, what would it look like? Where are you being vague? 


PODCAST: Mini Episode Seventeen '10 Practical ways to get into creative mode without self doubt and procrastination'

New podcast episode 🎧

I loved making this one. At this time of year, we can all feel a pressure to do more and be more. For me to gain clarity I need quiet time. I have never done an assault course in my life as it would be make me cry as I hate being bellowed at. For me to do my best work I have to slow down. 
There are ten practical steps. I hope you find them useful. 

How to set goals for the year ahead

Any other creatives have oodles of bits of paper, notebooks, ideas scribbled on travel cards? 
For years I would concentrate on simply getting the idea out of my head. I thought that was enough... phew I didn’t forget it. But I was missing the mark on stage two... doing something with the idea. Capturing it so I could work with it... filing it so that it was easily accessible. 


Since my birthday. I have created this dream team trio. 
The 2019 book is broken into categories and has my goal setting work. The other brown one is a creative jotter... the place to home brainstorms and writing ideas... this can be easily replaced when it gets full (@frompaperchase (£6) ) and the rainbow book is a journal. I have been trying this combo for about six weeks and it’s working. 


I have an adventure book too that I am using for fun stuff; my wish list, things that are not associated with work... just adventures I want to plan. 
How do you capture your ideas? What works for you?