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What would Beyoncé do? (Maybe)

Beyoncé and I have a long distance relationship... we’ve been in the same room/field twice but the love is strong. One of us maaaay not know who the other is. But that’s ok. 😉

There are always phrases of ‘What would Beyoncé do?’ like it is a quick ‘Ok cool I’ll do that too’ However as it often is I’m sure it will be combination of things... I have tried to dissect the process on why she is in a league of her own...


1. She decided... we all have those moments of ‘no more, enough is enough’ or ‘Let’s do this’ or ‘What have I got to lose?’ Every action begins with a decision. I can’t imagine any of this was a flippant thought. 


2. Got a big vision. She’s not playing any more. She has the platform, money, support, love and talent to build a wonderful vision so she does. 


3. She realised she needed to build a team as she couldn’t do it alone. We may be a company of one but the best find the best to collaborate and grow with. 


4. She charged well.. for now and for later. Get paid now for the performance but also for ownership/producing rights. Savvy. 


5. She gave herself permission to still do what she loved and be a mother. Yes it is tough and you need support to do so but all hopes and dreams don’t end as soon as you give birth. 


6. Moved the needle. I am very interested in this phrase at the moment. I don’t want to be generic and surface. Beyoncé knows the stories that need to be told, the words that perhaps have been unsaid. She says them. 


7. Gave herself more time than normal. Overnight success is not a thing. There are hours of ‘showing up’ behind the scenes. 


8. Gave clear communication. You can’t lead without sharing your vision. There is a great part on the Goop podcast with @brenebrownabout how organisations could do this effectively. 


9. Be humble. Generous, kind, open, loving... you know all those things that are at your core. 


10. Do it like you are the best in the world and show the world what you can do.



What would happen if I became a contestant on Masterchef...

Anyone else a little bit obsessed with Masterchef? I love it. It is brilliant… I am so familiar with it, I almost think I could go on…or maybe not.

In reality, here’s what would happen:

1) I would be immediately outed that I have to use every pot and pan and my knife skills are quite shabby but enthusiastic.

2) I may be so impressed with myself when I made something delicious that I may accidentally eat it all before I served it. ‘Hmmm, yes John and Greg, it WAS nice and I DID balance the flavours beautifully.

3) I may cry if I was shouted out in the kitchen. I can cope with pressure but not when someone is bellowing ‘Come on come on come on’

4) People would know that I stick my tongue out to the side when I am in mega concentration mode…you would see this too when I was placing a tiny cube of beetroot gel onto the plate with tweezers…

Perhaps entry for 2020 may be a little too eager… plus I will have had a baby by then…probably not the best combination.

But in all seriousness, it does make me cook more. I knocked up a pretty great curry yesterday and it welcomed all the smug feels.

Sometimes social media or the media in general can make us assume that all the spots are taken…every idea has been done already, the market is saturated or people have had enough of x, y and z. Or we have to be the best in our field otherwise we can’t do it at all. Not true.

It is unlikely that I am going to be a Masterchef champion but I can still enjoy cooking, eating and improving our skills.

Plus people may be waiting for your flavour.

Over the next few days, I want to set you a challenge. I want to encourage you to make small incremental steps towards improving…

What you improve or focus on is entirely up to you. But the key is not to overwhelm yourself…just start with one thing.

So if you want to improve sales, how could you do this?

If you want to become more consistent, how could you create a process to support this?

If you want to make some bold moves which are out of your comfort zone how could you set yourself up for taking action even though, it feels scary.


Being vague delays progress

C L A R I T Y

Do you remember that moment when you finally saved up enough pocket money to buy that thing you’d had your eye on for yonks? The extra bouncy trainers? The strong selection of fluorescent scrunchies (perfect for stacking!) or the strong smelling bubble bath from the Body Shop that made everyone in your house smell of tangerines. 

I remember saving up for some crimpers. Yes it was the 80s. The brand was Babyliss. The girl with the crimped hair in the advert looks liked she was having so much fun as she met her pals down the street. I was sold. 

Crimpers

I clutched my money and headed to Boots in Meadowhall in Sheffield and made a beeline for them. I didn’t get distracted, I knew the exact ones. They were there waiting for me. I crimped/ singed my hair as soon as I got home. Before long, everyone I met was a guinea pig and they left my sights with slightly frazzled hair. The return customers (non paying) even got to borrow one of the aforementioned fluorescent stacking scrunchies. 




So often I hear a lack of clarity…’I don’t mind’ ‘You choose’ ‘We’ll just have to see what happens’ ‘I’ll just cross my fingers’. ‘Whatever you think” That sense of limbo of waiting on someone’s decision can take up a lot of energy. 




What would it feel like to put all that energy into clarity, direction and focus. 




I would love what is important to you right now. If you could state your preferred outcome now, what would it look like? Where are you being vague? 


Podcast: 'How to ride the unexpected bumps, set backs, obstacles and rejections in business' | Mini Episode Nineteen

Running your own gig is brilliant when it is fun, exciting, flexible, invigorating and gives you that sense that you are doing exactly what you should be doing in the world. 
But what about the other times. The tricky bits. The times where you were caught out? The moments when you didn’t what to do for the best as all options were pretty rubbish. Or the sleepless nights anxious about money? Or consumed by your own self doubt. 
I wanted to talk about it today and give you some tools to support those less Instagrammable bits. Don’t worry we all have them. You are never alone.

Listen below:

I'm a big geek and a big rebel

I’m a big geek and a big rebel all at the same time. 

I am ace at the Countdown numbers. Even when the big number is 75

I have a weird and extensive knowledge of the TFL network…if you are ever drunk and lost at 2am, call me- I will direct you onto the right bus. 

I love ironing. 

I have folders for everything. 

I rub out unnecessary apostrophes on pub chalk boards. 

I have been known to borrow a pen to add one in if required. 


I don’t subscribe to age requirements…by the time I am x…I have to be y. I will be that poem, the old woman who wears purple…

I have invented my own job as I knew I wasn’t suited to one that already existed.

I can get deep really quickly. There are so many people I have met at weddings, airports, in waiting rooms and at conferences that I know waaay too much stuff about but have no idea where they live or which motorway they came on. 

I think about my green Doc Martens a lot. 

And as for Blue Monday or other social calendar date that puts an odd societal pressure on things, I’m not into. Rarely has the ‘best night ever’ been on New Year’s Eve. I really like Mondays. Sometimes I want to have a bath, read a book and get an early night on a Friday night. Sometimes I want to get really drunk on a Wednesday date night. 

January is a time of limbo. We are all desperate for some light and warmth on our faces- even I am saying that as a ginger, pale person. We know we are supposed to be working on our big, bold 2019 goals but the cold weather is suggesting otherwise. ‘Come my sweet friend, it is warm under here in this cloud like duvet’. 


I know I am in a small percentage of people who don’t get the appeal of pancakes. Nor Yorkshire puddings. Too spongy. Too rubbery. On Shrove Tuesday, I will probably be having a lasagna. 

Basically it is all about what works for you…if you are springy in January, spring. If now is your hibernation time, use it wisely and set some deadlines. 


If setting yearly goals is too overwhelming, set 6 monthly goals. Or monthly or weekly or daily. Just get clear on what feels good. Most of our bills are paid at the end of the month and sometimes that is a great time for me to set the next round of goals for the following month. It makes it real.