Being vague delays progress

C L A R I T Y

Do you remember that moment when you finally saved up enough pocket money to buy that thing you’d had your eye on for yonks? The extra bouncy trainers? The strong selection of fluorescent scrunchies (perfect for stacking!) or the strong smelling bubble bath from the Body Shop that made everyone in your house smell of tangerines. 

I remember saving up for some crimpers. Yes it was the 80s. The brand was Babyliss. The girl with the crimped hair in the advert looks liked she was having so much fun as she met her pals down the street. I was sold. 

Crimpers

I clutched my money and headed to Boots in Meadowhall in Sheffield and made a beeline for them. I didn’t get distracted, I knew the exact ones. They were there waiting for me. I crimped/ singed my hair as soon as I got home. Before long, everyone I met was a guinea pig and they left my sights with slightly frazzled hair. The return customers (non paying) even got to borrow one of the aforementioned fluorescent stacking scrunchies. 




So often I hear a lack of clarity…’I don’t mind’ ‘You choose’ ‘We’ll just have to see what happens’ ‘I’ll just cross my fingers’. ‘Whatever you think” That sense of limbo of waiting on someone’s decision can take up a lot of energy. 




What would it feel like to put all that energy into clarity, direction and focus. 




I would love what is important to you right now. If you could state your preferred outcome now, what would it look like? Where are you being vague? 


PODCAST: 'Making, handling, optimising money and why it isn't all about creativity' Mini Episode Twenty

Mini episode 20 is now live and I’m talking about money. I am not a financial advisor or accountant, however I am very passionate about talking about money. Mainly because I feel we are not educated about it. How to make it, grow it and sustain it. I know you may not want to listen to this one as money is such an emotive topic but it will help you set your year up going forward.

Listen to the full episode here:

A slightly ranty, alternative Christmas

An alternative, slightly ranty Christmas story... Today I have been asked by three different women whether I was ready for Christmas. When I said no and stated that I hadn’t done anything... I received looks of horror, distain and panic. 'I finished two weeks ago...glad it is all out of the way' was one of the replies. 

Now I know Christmas is a busy time of year and it is good to be organised, however it is only November. Of course, I want to create and be part of a lovely Christmas but I want to do other things too. 

I still have lots of work to complete, clients to serve and planning to do for 2019. That is how I can make a difference. I can also have a carpet picnic with my son and my man that they love any day of the week- our best day of the year doesn't have to be the 25th December. With a death in the family last week, there will definitely be more reflection this year. 

Judging another woman about her Christmas prep is one way we will all stay small. Due to societal pressure we will convince ourselves that we are behind, imperfect, disorganised or a shambles. We are not. There is plenty for time... until Christmas and for what we want to do. I doubt these three women would have asked this question to men. 

When we get caught in this cycle of worthiness being equal to perfection, this is when we don’t progress. We don’t launch the business, make the move, write what’s on your heart or do the things we really want to do. 

We get trapped in busyness, overwhelm, small talk and looking side to side instead of what’s in front of us.


I’m sure those who asked did so as a simple conversation starter. Or maybe they didn’t. Either way it made me think.



'Getting visible and facing your fear about putting your business/face on the internet' | Mini Episode Seven

Since 2012 I have coached over a 1000 people. Talented, skilled, passionate, kind people. When I trained as a coach I learnt methods to help my clients to build a strategy. However there is another huge chunk of the puzzle... the mindset stuff. The imposter syndrome, all the questions, the self doubt, the fear, the judgement, going pro and did I mention ALL THE QUESTIONS. 


I have been to too many panels recently where the experts have just said things like ‘go for it’ or ‘just start’ and I get that. However we are all starting from different places. I trained as an actor and I still find this stuff difficult- putting yourself out there, selling, pitching, pricing, presenting and if you are feeling the same, please know you are not alone. 
I want to help you to do business on your terms. To show up in a way that feels good. 

PODCAST: How to keep your inner Veruca Salt in check

The pressure, man! The unwritten rules of how you should feel or what you 'should' have achieved at a certain age. 
There are so many conversations around who is doing what; at what speed, in what way and we are seeing so much of it play out online. Don't forget though, we are not seeing all of it!

I know you want it now. Just like Veruca. Plus throw in a golden goose whilst you are at it. Sometimes the striving outwards, stops the celebrations now...what you are creating now. How far you've come. 
You've got plenty of time. It's all good.