Being vague delays progress

C L A R I T Y

Do you remember that moment when you finally saved up enough pocket money to buy that thing you’d had your eye on for yonks? The extra bouncy trainers? The strong selection of fluorescent scrunchies (perfect for stacking!) or the strong smelling bubble bath from the Body Shop that made everyone in your house smell of tangerines. 

I remember saving up for some crimpers. Yes it was the 80s. The brand was Babyliss. The girl with the crimped hair in the advert looks liked she was having so much fun as she met her pals down the street. I was sold. 

Crimpers

I clutched my money and headed to Boots in Meadowhall in Sheffield and made a beeline for them. I didn’t get distracted, I knew the exact ones. They were there waiting for me. I crimped/ singed my hair as soon as I got home. Before long, everyone I met was a guinea pig and they left my sights with slightly frazzled hair. The return customers (non paying) even got to borrow one of the aforementioned fluorescent stacking scrunchies. 




So often I hear a lack of clarity…’I don’t mind’ ‘You choose’ ‘We’ll just have to see what happens’ ‘I’ll just cross my fingers’. ‘Whatever you think” That sense of limbo of waiting on someone’s decision can take up a lot of energy. 




What would it feel like to put all that energy into clarity, direction and focus. 




I would love what is important to you right now. If you could state your preferred outcome now, what would it look like? Where are you being vague? 


How to set goals for the year ahead

Any other creatives have oodles of bits of paper, notebooks, ideas scribbled on travel cards? 
For years I would concentrate on simply getting the idea out of my head. I thought that was enough... phew I didn’t forget it. But I was missing the mark on stage two... doing something with the idea. Capturing it so I could work with it... filing it so that it was easily accessible. 


Since my birthday. I have created this dream team trio. 
The 2019 book is broken into categories and has my goal setting work. The other brown one is a creative jotter... the place to home brainstorms and writing ideas... this can be easily replaced when it gets full (@frompaperchase (£6) ) and the rainbow book is a journal. I have been trying this combo for about six weeks and it’s working. 


I have an adventure book too that I am using for fun stuff; my wish list, things that are not associated with work... just adventures I want to plan. 
How do you capture your ideas? What works for you?

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