Going from one to two children | Nicky Raby

As you may or may not know, I am due to go from being a Mum of one to a Mum of two at the end of the summer (all being well). I am feeling all the feels of course… and have so many questions, I can’t answer.

Fortunately I saved all of the stuff from from our first baby, so we don’t have the list of ‘essentials’ which seemed to be ridiculously long for such a little person this time around. There are oodles of videos online on what you ‘need’ and I bought a lot of that list last time. Nearly four years on I thought it may be useful to share the things we have actually used (and continue to do so) and what may change this time.

'Finding your why...the heavy stuff and light, fluffy, lovely stuff' | Nicky Raby

Why you shouldn't rely on one lucky break/moment/mention and instead continually 'feed' your business

I hope you had a lovely bank holiday. Ours was very chilled after a week of a visitors and included a lot of activities that could be done in loungewear. Ideal!

Today I want to share something with you; which may just change your business, your brand and your life choices. Errrm, come on, Nicky?! Er really? That is some big promise for a Tuesday morning. 

I know, I know, but I stand by my claim. 

If you have followed for a while, you may know that I trained as an actor. I still love it but these days my attitude towards the industry and my place within it is very different. 

As a young actor, we were taught to be humble, patient and grateful. Hence many years of feeling gleefully grateful whenever I got a free sandwich and a lift home. I don't think I had grasped the concept of being 'business savvy' and actually expecting to be paid for my work. 

As I was concentrating on 'being discovered' or noticed or chosen or flavour of the month, I spent a lot of time being passive. I didn't want to come across as being pushy...

But as the time went on, the wait became longer and self doubt increased and guess what... the opportunities didn't come. 

Then I realised. I actually liked being proactive. It gave me energy, it made me feel like I was making progress and being in the state of that 'flow' I was building momentum and through that, I was more likely to gain success. Bingo.

In the business world, sometimes there is this pretence that your succeed will happen overnight or it will be one silver, shiny, sparkling moment that will change EVERYTHING. Or once we have the three keys to unstoppable success,we will be a hop, skip and a jump away from private jet life!

However mostly it is consistent action that you take that will gain you the results... you know, like with exercise...you could do a 4 hour gym session once a month but it is likely you will see more change when you do less but more frequently. 

I know it is boring and unsexy. In fact, sometimes I have convinced myself everything would change when I got a certain bit of press, or invitation or made a connection. If anything, it just added to the general melting of 'feeling good' and feeling good is when I do my best work (and that may or may not be in lounge wear! :) 

How to boost creativity

But I’m not creative?

Or so many of us think. In fact, this is often not true.

Creativity comes in many different forms, not in just the artistic arena. Although many of us would consider ourselves ‘non creatives’ in our work, the act of being creative can pop up everywhere. From arranging our Christmas tree a certain way, to presenting a dinner with an elegant twist to our thinking in the work place.

Often we face challenges along the way that don’t make sense or leave us confused and not knowing the right answer. After sitting on the quandary for a while, we often have that realisation of ‘Right, it is time to do something about this’ or ‘We need to find a solution’ and the thought process begins. Suddenly with a bit of ‘Well, we could try to…..’ and ‘Perhaps if we have a go at….’ The answers start to reveal themselves.

Clients often come to me because they would like to do something creative; write a book, start something brilliant, utilise their artistic flair- they have all the ideas but sometimes need a little help getting started or need someone to bounce ideas with so they can fit it in with the rest of their life. 

I would class myself as a creative person, however sometimes the business tasks or the to do list of my daily life seems to come first. 

I found that I would put creative tasks off- I will do that when I have time/money/headspace. I quickly realised these things would never happen unless I made a commitment to myself  to put the wheels in motion. 

What creative challenge would you like to set yourself?

1. School days

Take yourself back to your school days. In our school, Friday afternoons were ‘free play’ so there would be art, or music or choir available to participate in. What do you think back fondly on? Take a moment to reminisce.

2. Write

Take ten minutes to write down projects you have always wanted to complete. A book you want to write, a show you want to see, a dish you would like to make even if you don’t know how.

3. Tell someone

When we tell someone our thoughts move from our head and start to become a reality. Sometimes when we share we receive responses such as ‘Oh, I fancy do that too’ or ‘I know someone who can help you.’ and you start to gain momentum.

4.   Research

Have a look to see what is out there- there could be something right on your doorstep?

5.  Take action

Book, call, visit, design, email, brainstorm. etc etc.  Even if you just complete a little step, do something today.